No, no. I don’t mean like that.
But if you’re gay and out of the closet, a big gigantic YAY for you!
What I’m referring to is the blogging closet.
If you have a blog, do you let it all hang out? Maybe you’re the type to shout “I write a blog!” from the mountain tops or Facebook all 12,000 of your closest friends. Gosh I hate Facebook.
Or are you a closet blogger? You could have a warrant out for your arrest, write nasty things about your co-workers. Maybe you have a deformity of sorts.
Or maybe you’re like me. Confused.
The other day I realized that I still have one foot wedged firmly inside the closet door and I’m not too sure if I should come out. I was having a conversation with a friend whom I hadn’t seen in awhile. We were talking about me. My favorite subject. While I was droning on about my kids, blah, blah, blah, I’ll admit that I was embarrassed to reveal that I write a blog. My husband, mother and a couple of other people are the only ones who know about my dirty little secret.
This blog has become a part of my oddball life. I enjoy writing it. I enjoy your snarky comments. Why should I be embarrassed? Plenty of people write about Ina Garten’s vagina, right? And I’m not going to lie, I enjoy the financial perks as well. Do you know that in one month alone I made $21.00 from an advertiser? Yes, I know. It’s awesome being me. I bought a doughnut and some zit cream with my windfall. You’ll notice they have since ceased doing business with me.
So what do you think, should this blogger let it all hang out?
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Most of my friends know about my blog, and family on Facebook see it, but my immediate family does not. As it is, I already feel totally limited in what I can write about now that I let the blog out of the closet. I have so much good material that would kill my social life if I wrote about it. Considering an anonymous blog to vent about the idiots in my life.
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Sounds like an anonymous blog would be good for you. Go VENT!
Wait. You make MONEY at this? I might have to smack you around a little when I see you at BlogHer. But then we can make up and make out at the bar, right?
Elly Lou´s last blog ..Thom the Bald-tist
I still have a whopping 47 cents left from my advertising bonanza. I’ll buy you a drink in New York.
No tongue please…
I am not out of the closet at all.There are a handful of people who know me and know about my blog…but Imaskeered to come out. Its not like I write about flowers and rainbows you know…unless its about a rainbow shitting unicorn of course. Although I do post pictures of myself from time to time because like you, I am my favorite subject.
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I can see how it might be a bit difficult for you to come out.
Your crazy motherfucking antics at the strip club might frighten the milkman.
There’s something to be said for a little mystery. I dig your blog as it is… though if I knew more about you, that’d probably make it all the more fun.
Yes, I might actually post a teeny tiny photo of myself on this here blog.
*gasp*
Would you mind bringing that rooftop a little bit closer, please? Thank you.
I’ll have more energy to shout from it (my blog addy, natch) if I don’t have to waste too much time getting to it.
signed,
Whore of all things.
ps – I actually hate the word ‘natch’…it’s too similar to ’snatch’, as in; natch my snatch is scratchy – I just fucked the drummer.
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You are such a good whore though! Do you offer lessons?
I need to learn how to climb the rooftops and shout a little louder.
I am passively out of the closet. I have a link to my blog posted on facebook–I think the link has been clicked once or twice. Nn conversation, I don’t mention that I blog unless who I’m talking to has noticed it and brings it up. Then I reply with a shrug.
Turns out, though, hardly anyone I know is interested.
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Oh my gosh. I just clicked on your link. I love the name of your blog. VOMIT POPSICLE? That is awesome.
I can’t believe no one is interested in your blog. Maybe you need a few new friends.
I regret the day I got the bright idea to tell anyone that would listen about my blog. The next day I regret was the one in which I gave them the URL. Sure, my narcissism craves them knowing I am the genius behind my words, but it’s not really sunshine and roses when they are the very person you want to bitch about. I’m with lz, thinking about an anonymous blog too. Anonymity never hurt anyone, right?
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I find it hard to believe YOU would bitch about anyone.
Hee hee.
Hey! I am out with one foot still in. Last year I started blog in late November but I didn’t tell a soul until March-then I let two friends in and then a few more and then some family. I work for a local high school so I cannot always say exactly what I want and trust me I could write volumes on the demons also know as “cheer” moms.
SInce I can be found through goggle I am careful. I feel weird sometimes knowing people in my life read me. I also have been bitten in the ass by people feeling they should comment on my state of mind by what they have seen in my blog. Fuck them
I do love your blog sweets- do only what makes you happy. This is your thing and when we are wives and Moms it is important to have something just ours. Sorry so long:)
Love .
laurel´s last blog ..Sweets for my Sweets
Demonic “cheer” moms?
That sounds frightening. I think I’m insecure about people I know reading this and telling me I suck. Not that they would. All in my teeny head.
Awe Darling-I try to stay out of my teeny head. It is a scary dangerous neighborhod filled with all sorts of ugly places like a favorite visiting stop… I call unworthyland.
You are brilliant. Know that
laurel´s last blog ..Sweets for my Sweets
I too am in-between. I have posted my link on facebook, and that gained me a whopping 3 readers. Many family members know about my blog, but only two follow it. And only 3 co-workers know about it. I would come out in a much bigger fashion but for being a high school teacher. I censor myself from talking about sex or my vag, I don’t say ‘fuck’ nearly as much as I’d like, and I don’t write all my woes about work — because I’m terrified my high school students would find it and I would be unemployed. Maybe I’ll start a completely anonymous blog about all that.
It will be called, “Sex, My Vag, and Fuck.”
Andrea´s last blog .."You can’t always get what you want"
How awesome would it have been to know that your high school teacher talks about her vag online?
I see your dilemma.
Love the working title of you new blog though. Fantastic.
You can do like I did…I have two identities on Facebook. My real identity and my blogging identity. That way I can come out…but not all the way out.
Re: Facebook. I have gained some readers there actually. I know there’s a lot of Facebook hate going around right now. “It’s robbing from blogs.” “It’s robbing from Twitter.” “It’s robbing from life.” “It’s….” Waaaaaa! Yes, to all of those, but only to the extent you allow it to do so. It also can be another tool to pick up readers and connect with friends and family (if you really want to connect with those nutjobs).
Also at first, I didn’t know where your blog was going based on the title. I mean, you are San Francisco, so hey…who am I to judge?
Really, though, whether you “come out” or not doesn’t really matter, because you still have a kick-ass blog. Keep kicking ass, Amanda.
I think having two identities would totally confuse me, but I see what you’re saying…
I just don’t like Facebook because it’s goofy. But then again so am I.
Kick-ass is good too!
I’m out. Actually – funny you should bring this up, because I just outed myself completely today with a bizness associate…it freaked her out – it was fun. My parents, my sisters, my sister’s fiance, my aunts, my dad’s FRIENDS – it’s on Facebook, twitter, my email sigs. I’ve been whoring it out for over a year. My GAWD am I annoying! Liberated, but really annoying.
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Gosh I so need to start whoring myself out like you and Sue.
Think I’ll have a drink and send out some emails.
Don’t come out if it’ll make you turn all shy ‘n what not. Then again, if the people in your RL are anything like mine it won’t matter. I tell everyone I see. Nobody cares.
Mark Kerstetter´s last blog ..Passing it On
Maybe I’ll take your approach. I will tell EVERYONE.
I wonder how my garbage man feels about blogging?
Well…I’m dealing with the consequences of being “out” today. To save my relationship with my in laws, I had to write letters of apology and delete a few posts. Being out sucks and I wish I’d never stepped out of the closet. Bah.
Wow. What on Earth did you write about?
That sucks, hope you can repair the relationships. But if you wrote it you must have felt it, right?
I like to say NO ONE I KNOW READS MY BLOG really loudly to guilt my husband into reading-doesn’t work- but gee golly HIS mother reads it and I’d like to bitch about her for a bit but I can’t.
There is an anonymous blog called the things I can’t tell you and it’s pretty great-I vent there frequently…
truly not ONE of my friends reads my blog-they roll their eyes when I say anything about it or, or blogging for that matter.
I blog-I write-I don’t go insane and stab people with forks because I have an artistic vent besides finger painting and CRAPbooking-and? I fucking like it-THEY? can all suck it because at least I like what I am doing
hmmmmm do I sound a little nasty?
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Your own husband doesn’t read it? Threaten him with a wedgie. Works with mine.
Your blog is great, I can’t believe your friends don’t read it! Eye rolling is unacceptable.
Send me their email addresses and I’ll threaten them for you…
oh coming to town to blogher food-yes I’ll look for you in the coffee shop with a hump on your back
laura´s last blog ..Pizza Stuffed Mushrooms
Oh excellent!
I’ll be wearing a floral mu mu as well.
well… why not really. i tell most people i write a blog – if they ask. i don’t scream it stupidly from rooftops.
p.s., i share your distain for facebook. FINALLY, ANOTHER ONE! IT’S NOT JUST ME! (saw a guy the other day with a shirt on that said ‘no, i’m not on f**king facebook’. i wanted to hug him. then steal his shirt.)
maybe i’ll advertise my blog a bit more when i feel that what i’m blogging about are things that people will actually want to READ.
i think you can already be assured of this.
xo
Oh it’s never too soon to start promoting yourself!
Although I don’t do Facebook I do admit I have a bit of Twitter problem.
Blogging, when you might live near nice neighbors but need ‘em when ‘you’ need ‘em.
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Ok, so since I write some seriously fucked up stuff, live in a town with a population of about 600 and know 590 of them, no, not totally out. Yes, some people know. I don’t hide much of anything, but I haven’t printed t-shirts yet. All of my friends know and some read it. Some don’t. I don’t care. My kids know I have it, but they aren’t allowed to read it. BUT, I haven’t linked it on my Facebook because I do dig on the idiots in my town so often and my kids teachers are on my FB and so on. But, the other day, my FB status was “Tell me what you are reading right now.” because I was on the hunt for something out of my norm reading list. Out of the blue a guy I went to school with posts the following response ” Your blog you Wicked girl you” I laughed so hard I almost cried. Good thing I really don’t care. Cause I am not a secret.
Wicked Shawn´s last blog ..Wicked List of Good and Not So Good Ideas
If you do the t-shirts I’ll do them too…
I am so in the closet it’s not even funny. I just got around to telling my husband and none of my family or friends have been informed. I don’t think anyone would currently be talking to me if they knew! Especially my MOTHER.
kelly´s last blog ..My Mom is Going to Kick Your Mom’s Ass at BlogHer 2010.
Oh come on, moms have to talk to you. No matter what. That’s the rule.
I didn’t tell my husband until I had a few readers. Then I came out.
Now he checks my punctuation.
Only my mom, my hubs, and a couple of other people know. I don’t tell my in-laws b/c they wouldn’t understand my sense of humor and they are too reserved. It’s weird, but I guess my blog is my dirty little secret.
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Why are in-laws always soooooo weird?
I’m not ready to come out. I feel that I would be looking over my shoulder after each blog for things like…’hey, was that one about me??’ or ‘How could you write that?” that kinda stuff scares me more than the mob. Well almost.
mrsblogalot´s last blog ..Never Too Old For A Sticker
That’s why I write about my imaginary friends. They never get offended.
I’m like the first commenter. My immediate family doesn’t know I have a blog and probably wouldn’t care. I don’t “shout” it out because I’m not that confident in my writing, but I do love to write. Some of my stuff is “opinionated” and other stuff is just stupid stuff I write. Take it or leave it.
I think more people would “come out” if they had more people comment on their blogs. I get lots of viewers, but not many comments.
I have no confidence in my writing skills. I’m usually drunk when I post something…
Hey there Amanda, as a fellow SF blogger (and mother at home with two sick kids right now) I have to say: let it all hang out. I do / and I have a whopping 19 odd readers per day, according to my sitemeter – so it’s well worth it, haha.
Joking aside, my blog started as diary for my family to read when we moved from UK to SF, but now it’s just random thoughts. I don’t think anyone would pay me for my blog, so I might join you next time you’re buying a doughnut for adveritsing money and watch you eat it:).
Your blog looks great by the way!!
I will make sure to follow it from now on,
xxx
Does your family read your blog?
I guess I worry about my clients reading this, but then again this is San Francisco…
I think my mom reads it every now and then. I know the work thing, blogs and facebook are evil tools for people at work:). I do write another blog, anonymously, because of that reason, it gives me more freedom to express what I want without having to edit and re-edit.
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42 comments?!? Damn. I waited too long and now you’ll never see this. That being the case, I’m going to streak your blog.
*whee* (nekkid)
Ok, whew. Anyway, tell everyone. Screw it. I say that, but what I mean is tell everyone but your work. I don’t really advertise at work. If family reads it, they should have known better.
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I SAW YOU! I SAW YOU!
hee hee.
Most of my family is computer illiterate so I’m not too concerned about them.
You mean, you didn’t see that article about you I put in the New York Times with your blog address and everything? Ah. Guess I should’ve asked first …
Fran´s last blog ..More evidence that spelling maters
Oh Fran that would be my WORST nightmare.
The New York Times?
Blech.
i’m new to this blogging lark… i recently decided to start a blog (anonymously) so that I can let it all hang out without anyone knowing. Well, not anyone I know anyhow
but I’m just finding my feet… in some ways I think ‘why not just write it in a notebook’ but somehow, that’s too permanent. Blogging is great because it can be anonymous (can’t it?) and also you get to meet lots of other ranting individuals, which I think is going to be quite interesting 
Sara´s last blog ..At this point…
In some circles I am clearly out and in others, I am, like you, embarrassed to admit I write a blog. Sometimes when I haven’t seen someone for awhile and I don’t have the energy to explain all that has been going on, I want to just say, “you know, I do have a blog…you can just go read about it.”
We put the blog URL on the Christmas cards this year, so I guess that probably means I am, more or less, out…except at work.
Alecia´s last blog ..Baby Basics Nine Months Later
I’ve been a little secretive with my family about it. Not because I write about them, but sometimes I say things that are kind of political in a way, and we’re about as different as can be when it comes to that stuff. I don’t care if they read it and disagree with it, they’re just so gosh darn sensitive about it. I have a lot of friends who read it, and I like that. It is kind of weird when I’m at the park and a mom is like, “Oh yeah, I read that on your blog”. But, then I feel famous
Beth in SF´s last blog ..Public Service Announcement
Ok, I totally need to get this reply plug-in… love to respond to comments on my blog, but I don’t think anyone comes back to read them, but if there is a direct reply, I am seeing how that’s clutch.
Anyway, my motto is “If in doubt-don’t publish.” To me, some things should be left out of a blog, no matter how “real” it may be since it can hurt others. And it also may come off as airing some dirty laundry, no?
Hi Amanda, Love the new look! It’s been awhile since I’ve been in the blogger neighborhood. I see that you’re doing well & earning mullah online. ehehehe I feel proud myself when I get a $10/month windfall from some advertising opinion.
I’m kind of a closet blogger myself. Only my family & very close friends know I blog. Oh, well.
Enjoy your weekend!
Shey´s last blog ..Merry Christmas to all!
For sure, let it all hang out. Don’t be ashamed of who you are and what you do! Just think, that $21 could double to $42 if you proclaimed from the mountain tops that you are one proud blogger. Think of all the zit cream you could buy with that.
Mountain Momma´s last blog ..Can you make those jeans a venti? And hold the whip cream
And on the Ina Garten note, I once met a girl named Ragina (rhymes with vagina). Try that one on for size. I couldn’t say her name without cracking up. Not a good way to make friends.
Mountain Momma´s last blog ..Can you make those jeans a venti? And hold the whip cream
My blog posts go up on facebook, so people I know in real life – including my close family can read it. And for that reason I am careful about what I say. Theoretically, my mother can click through to it, but I am pretty sure she never has. She’d give so much blog fodder, but she has little or no sense of humour when it comes to that, so it would just be inciting a riot for no good reason.
My hubby, on the other hand gets slightly irate at times! But he can deal with it.
On the other hand, I was out the other night with some people – one of who is on my facebook friends list, and I made a joke about blogging about something we were talking about, and one of the others replied wtih “what?” – and I got all flustered and changed the subject!
pixielation´s last blog ..Going for birthdays, bolting and bling
You could of course limit it so that only some can see your weblink on Facebook… I personally let some know but most of my friends doesn’t know that I write. Well, the ones in Sweden generally do, at least the closer friends (none of them normally bother to comment though, but they claim they read the blog at least from time to time), but here there are only a few that are aware of it.
My relatives knows, they come and check the blog out too. So I have one food in the closed and another one out…
Ann-Katrin´s last blog ..Thailand on my mind
I am totally out. But I am like that in general. Can’t keep a secret to save my life. But here is the downside (or at least one of many.) I am always searching for blog fodder so I think my friends might be afraid to tell me their interesting secrets now cuz they are afraid I’m going to post on them. But one friend did confess yesterday that she thinks she might need to vagazzle since she is in her 40s and single. It’s a rough world out there, ya know. Anyhoo, she didn’t seem bothered at all when I told her I was going to throw her and her vagazzled chacha across the traintracks (omitting her name of course, I do have at least some remnants of human decency….maybe.)
I kinda am. I’ve put my blog up on Facebook a few times for all the friends and family to read. Too bad they really don’t want to know THAT much about me. So much for full disclosure.
Zen Mom´s last blog ..Doing the Time Warp
I’d love to be “Out” in the blogging world. But, I’m neither funny nor creative anymore. I’ve really got to work on that if I’m going to get followers. Seriously. But, I do still find myself blushing a slight pink tinge when I mention my blog. Usually, I just mention other people’s blogs … good blogs. Like yours!
Rachel´s last blog ..Introducing: Liam Michael
When I first started blogging, I only told three people: my husband, sister, and mother-in-law. After a while, I realized that if I wanted anyone to actually READ it, I’d have to mention its existence. And it wasn’t that hard because I post almost every day, so it’s a big part of my life.
I guess I didn’t stay in the closet too long because I only started the blog in the beginning of September.
Theresa Milstein´s last blog ..Just in Case
I am under cover so I can say things I really want to say but can’t in real life. Yup. I am repressed like that. My poor husband though does not get crazy sex due to my repression. I may need to write a post on this subject to fully explain…
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